My phone rang, and I made up my mind not to answer it before I glanced at the caller id. As a rule, I never answer the phone. I have more numbers saved in my contacts list of people I don’t want to talk to then of people I might want to call. It’s the first line of defense, and few violators ever make it past. Even friends are usually asked to leave a message, which is something I’m not proud to admit. Still, I’m horrible at saying no and …